Don’t just start and stop at the penis to arouse your man.
The penis is just the tip
(haha) of the iceberg when it comes to sensation! Experiment with all the new places to find out which one will send your boy over the edge.
Here, some ideas:
1. Their Chest Hair
If your guy has chest hair, you might as well play with it. The area is more sensitive than you think, and he’ll love you running your fingers through it. “Want to really drive them wild? Place your hand flat on their lower chest or belly and, keeping your palm on their skin, run it up their chest until you have a handful of hair. Tug, starting gently,” says Kait Scalisi, sex educator and founder of PassionbyKait.com. “Pulling this way stimulates the nerve endings without giving that stingy hair-pulling feel. You can do this on their head, too, starting at the back of their neck.”
2. The Third Eye
No, not the butthole. (I wouldn’t do that to you…just yet.) The Third Eye is a pressure point located in the middle of the forehead. Adding slight pressure with your thumb for 60 seconds helps relieve the tension in your partner. And, spoiler alert, tension is one of the leading causes of boner killers.
3. The Root of the Penis
Obviously the penis is sensitive as a whole — no surprise there! — but you might want to pay close attention to the root of it. It’s not a well-known area, but once you master the technique he’ll be in pure heaven. “You want to massage the area where the balls connect to the perineum,” Scalisi says. “To do this, cup their balls in your hand with your fingers facing their butt. Use the tips or pads to press upward, into his body. This part of the body can handle a good deal of pressure, so play with different sensations — think tickling, pressing rhythmically, and kneading.”
4. The Head
Remember in middle school when your friend would make you close your eyes, and they would crack an imaginary egg on your head with their fingers and it felt AH-mazing? No? Just me? Well, it felt great. (And it still does.) Probably because the top of your head is rarely touched by anything other than a hair brush as you rush out the door to start our day. Sit behind you beau and run your fingers through his scalp. If he likes that, try adding slight pressure to his scalp in small circular motions. Feel his whole body relax in your hands has you play tenderly with what holds his cranium.
5. The Prostate
OK, this one might sound weird, but give it a chance: the prostate is a walnut-shaped gland that produces the liquid ejaculate you’re all too familiar with, and Stephanie Buehler, psychologist, sex therapist, and director of
The Buehler Institute
in Newport Beach, CA, says some guys really enjoy it being massaged. “To reach the prostate, lubricate a finger and gently put it up the man’s rectum. Crook your finger to find the right spot. There are also toys for prostate massage; just look online or go to a nearby sex toy shop.”
6. The Temples
While adding pressure to the Third Eye, begin massaging the temples (the sides of your forehead) by rotating your fingers in a slow, sensual, circular movement. This move also relieves tension and will allow sexual excitement to flow. Not to mention, your guy will relish the intimacy of you exploring his face.
7. The Facial Bones
Many people carry stress and tension in our heads and necks. (Thanks, day jobs.) Lay his head down in your lap and, once his neck is comfortable, start lightly tracing the angles of his face with the tips of your fingers. “Don’t just barge in there, use your fingertips to listen and sense the shape of him” advises Julie Tudor, a movement and manual therapist who specializes in pain relief therapy. A light, continuous touch will make him have an ~electric~ response.
8. The Lips
Trace your fingers lightly around your guy’s lips. Triggering the sensory nerves on his lips will release oxytocin, the “love hormone.” Which, yes, can easily lead to you getting laid. And lead you to orgasming.
The Shoulder Blades
Just like our necks, shoulders are riddled with stress. But is a hand massage enough to release that tension? “Elbows in the angel wings!” instructs Michelle Joni, massager and intuitive touch healer. “Nothing releases [the stress] quite like an elbow.” Remember not to use too much force on any bone, but rather outline the space between the bones for full satisfaction. And no, those “ahhhs” you are hearing are not orgasms, but your man is definitely getting in the mood to give you that giant “O.”
Feel for the small hollows in his neck. Those bad boys are erogenous zones! Add slight pressure with the tips of your fingers while making sure his head is secure. “Always make sure his head is safe and feels secure, so he can relax,” instructs Tudor.
11. The Inner Thighs
You may have noticed when playing with yourself that the inner thighs can be extremely sensitive. Same goes for your guy.
12. The Torso
“The torso, tummy, and bladder area is a vulnerable region, as many are insecure about their tummy shape,” says Joni. “Nobody wants to feel like you’re grabbing their fat.” Grab some oil, if you haven’t already, and slowly move both hands down from the armpits to the chest. Move your hands in a crisscross pattern caressing their torso in broad strokes.
13. Where His Bladder Is
The bladder contains a very sensual acupressure point aptly named the Gate of Origin. (The gate to his penis! Hey-O!) After massaging the torso, give the area where the bladder is a slight push to really
turn your partner on
. He also may have to pee now, so, uh, don’t push too hard. But he’s really, really going to want to fornicate you now.
14. The Ball of the Foot
Who doesn’t love a foot rub? Twist your knuckles around the ball the foot to release the tension. “If you go slowly with the foot stretched back, you will feel and hear a wave of crackling beneath the skin,” instructs Joni.
15. Behind the Knees
Another crease, another erogenous zone! Massage the back of the partner’s knee gently. To add an erotic ~flair~, kneel in front of him as he sits down in a chair or the edge of the bed as you massage both knees at the same time, teasing your mouth tantalizingly close to your man’s pelvic region. Like
a blow job
…but nope, not at all.
16. The Soft Interior of the Elbows
Anywhere the skin is soft on the body, it’s safe to assume that this area shall be very sensitive. “There is a higher concentrations of lymph nodes along the neck and under the arms, and the skin is thinner, so the sensory nerves are on higher alert,” says Tudor. Experiment with the pressure and rhythm of your movements. And don’t worry, that heavy sigh is a sign of relaxation and enjoyment encompassing his body, not him making a list of chores you two need to do this weekend.
17. The Ears
Yes, as you may have expected, the ears are a highly sensitive erogenous zone for your man, hence why he goes crazy if you bite his lobe or blow softly into his ear. When massaging your bae’s ears “using the pads of your fingers is usually best,” says Tudor. “Tips of fingers can feel pointy, and fingernails can get in the way and cause scratches.” Coconut oil is safe to use on the ears as well, if you want to add an extra slide.
18. The Shoulder Wells
Not to be confused with the shoulder blades, the shoulder well is located on the shoulder muscle, halfway between the base of the neck and the end of the shoulder muscle. Massaging this area can relieve stress, tension, and pain — which are total arousal killers. Less stress = feelin’ hotter.
19. The Clavicle
Another erogenous zone, baby! Add pressure tenderly with your thumb and forefinger into the groove just below your collar bone. You only need a little pressure to go a long way in arousing your partner’s senses!
20. The Nipples
Male nipples: nature’s enigma. There is no need for them in the evolutionary sense, but, man, oh, man, do some men have some sensitive nips. Caress them with a light touch, or gently pinch your man’s nipple to heat up the blood. Play with the pressure to see what your guy savors.
21. The Breastbone
Linger around the chest and find his breastbone. Look for the dimple in this bone — this acupressure point is called the Sea of Tranquility, and it’s a heavy-duty relaxation trigger. Press down lightly to add pressure and release tension from his chest.
22. The Armpit
I know what you’re thinking, but all creases are erogenous zones, including those hairy pits. Crazy, right? Depending on how ticklish your beau is, experiment with caressing and slapping the underarms. He may not like it, but, hey, he may love it. Only one way to find out.
23. The Calves and Achilles Tendon
“Slide all 10 fingers, with pressure, down their calves, down into the backs of their heels,” instructs Joni. Start slowly with all ten fingers, then slowly pick up speed to allow the energy to start flowing beneath the surface. This would be a good time to mention how much you love your man’s muscular stems. (God, I love a good pair of gams on a man.)
24. The Big Toe
To add variation to the normal foot rub, instead of cupping the toe in your hands, take your knuckle and twist it around in small swivels to release tension in the big toe. Putting pressure on the toe with your thumbs also has a desirable affect as well. Now, if only your guy could learn the benefits of owning a pumice stone.
25. The Scrotum
Just a quick refresher in the male anatomy: the scrotum is the skin that holds the testes (AKA the balls). It contains heaps of nerves making it very sensitive to the touch.
sensitive. Any type of massage in this area is going to require a light caress as to not cause pain. Unless your man likes pain, then by all means, tug away.
26. The Perineum
The pre-in-e-what? Oh, yes, that magical place between the testicles and the anus. Sure, it may not sound romantic, but bend down in front of your man, open his legs, and start gently massaging this area and he won’t know what he did to deserve such pleasures from his doting partner. Not to mention, you’ll have him eating out of the palm of your hand (and
maybe somewhere else
27. The Buttocks
It’s crazy how quickly we forget about the male derriere. Maybe because majority of their sexual organs are pointing straight at us? Grab some coconut oil or lube – but not too much, you still want a little friction — and just get in there. Slowly slide your palms in a circular motion on each cheek. Feel free to use your finger tips to grasp and stroke the buttocks, as well.
28. His Butthole
I know. I know. But whether
you are a butt girl
or not, you can’t deny that it’s very sensitive. And many men love butt play, so they are most likely going to like a little butthole massage. If you don’t want to get your hands dirty per se, go
on his butt, and grab a feather or a riding crop to tease his crack. Tickle his butthole with small circles around the rim, or slide the crop down the crack with added pressure.
29. His Lower Abs
The way to a man’s heart is through his stomach, but probably not in the way you think. Since
to a dude’s pelvis, anything below the belt is a solid way to stimulate him — and build major sexual tension. Before you go down on him, run your tongue from his lower abs along
where his legs meet his torso.
30. The Sacrum
The bony plate in his lower back, right above his buttocks, houses nerves that connect directly to his genitals — which makes it a great spot to
acknowledge during foreplay
. Massage it using your thumbs, or try licking or sucking it.
31. The Hips
Yep, even the hips can be super sensitive on men — so give him the best tease ever by kissing his hip bones. Having your face down by his penis without actually acknowledging it will drive him crazy.
32. The Belly Button
Weirdly enough, even the belly button has some sensitive nerve endings that can seriously turn on your man. Kiss or lick in or around it to give him a serious jolt of pleasure.
33. The Back
Giving your partner a sensual back rub always turns into something more for a good reason. Lightly brushing over his skin with your fingertips gives him goosebumps in a good way, which sex therapist Linda De Villers, PhD, says will help set the tone for longer, more languorous sex.
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